My Story

 

I wasn’t always the woman who teaches self-leadership. I was a teenage runaway. A high school dropout. A sexual abuse survivor.

By 2010, I had diagnoses: post-traumatic stress disorder. Borderline personality disorder. (Today, it would likely be called complex PTSD.)

On paper, my life didn’t look broken. Middle-class family. Good home. Good parents. Top education in the country. Highly gifted. Smart. Capable. Former military. Former model. From a distance, everything looked good.

Except my behaviour.

I was drinking destructively, abusing substances, career hopping, relationship hopping. Shotgun wedding. Divorce.

On paper, impressive. In reality, completely lost. No direction. No stable identity. No sense of purpose or meaning.

I was living with IBS. Drunk. Depressed. Dysregulated.

On the inside, I felt wild, self-destructive, out of control. I was hurting, deeply confused, ashamed, lost. Carrying more self-hatred than anyone around me could see.

From the outside, it looked like recklessness. From the inside, I was barely surviving.

 

The Rebirth

 

The divorce was a breaking point. Sobriety changed the game. I call it my rebirth.

The moment I chose myself, chose life, chose potential, everything accelerated.

Within weeks of getting sober, I enrolled in a Master’s in Organizational Behavior and Development. I didn’t enroll to heal myself. I enrolled because I wanted to change the world. I wanted to understand change properly, structurally, psychologically, systemically. I wanted to work on big problems. Societal problems. I wanted to become a professional problem solver.

But somewhere along the way, something unexpected happened.

I started applying everything I was learning to myself.

While studying business psychology, consulting models, systems thinking, and behavioral science, I realized something confronting:

We are systems.

And if organizations can be audited, redesigned, and optimized, so can individuals.

So I did what I had never done before. I stopped viewing myself as broken. And started viewing myself as a system with an operating model that needed redesign.

 

Building my model

 

During my Master’s, I worked as a teaching assistant in Positive Psychology and as a research assistant in psychophysiology labs.

I was immersed in cognitive science, metacognition, neuroplasticity, identity theory, trauma integration, and behavioral development.

And I kept testing it. On myself.

Then motherhood came, just as I graduated, and I took this work even deeper. I became a cycle breaker. The CEO of myself and my life.

What emerged became the framework I now use with clients.

A structured approach to self-change grounded in behavioral science, influenced by consulting methodology, and built through lived application.

Over time:

PTSD in remission.
BPD in remission.
Sober.
Stable.
Regulated.

I have been med-free and symptom-free for nearly a decade.

Not because I processed endlessly. But because I redesigned my operating system.

 

The new me

 

Today, I’m a behavioral scientist, change consultant, and PhD researcher continuing to deepen my work in self-change and identity development.

I view you and your life as a business.

You are the owner. You are the CEO.

And I consult for, coach and mentor the woman running that enterprise.

I don’t position myself as a savior. I work with intelligent, self-aware women, often high-functioning, often successful on paper, who are done surviving and ready to lead themselves. Women who want to interrupt patterns at the root. Reprogram their operating system. Build lives they don’t need to escape from. Build identities and businesses they can be proud of.

That’s the work.