My Story

I wasn’t always the woman who teaches self-leadership.

I was a teenage runaway. A high school dropout. A sexual abuse survivor.

By 2010, I had diagnoses:

Post-traumatic stress disorder.

Borderline personality disorder.

(Today, it would likely be called complex PTSD.)

On paper, my life didn’t look broken -I was from a middle-class family, good home, good parents, top education in the country, I was highly gifted, smart, capable... I served in the military, I dabbled in modeling.

From a distance, everything looked good. Great even.

Except my behaviour.

I was drinking destructively, abusing substances, career hopping, relationship hopping. I had a shotgun wedding. And a pretty quick divorce.

I was a mess. I was completely lost, had no direction, had no stable sense of who I was and zero sense of purpose or meaning. And it ate away at me..

I was a drunk, chronically dysregulated, deeply depressed woman-child.

On the inside I was hurting, confused, ashamed. Carrying more self-hatred than anyone around me could see.

From the outside, it looked like recklessness. From the inside, I was barely surviving.

The Rebirth

The miserable marriage was a breaking point. I went back on meds and dove into self help. But then a few years later sobriety changed the game. I call it my rebirth.

The moment I chose myself, chose life, chose potential, everything accelerated.

Within weeks of getting sober, I came off my meds, fell in love and decided I wanted to help change the world. I enrolled in a Master’s in Organizational Behavior and Development, because I wanted to understand change properly, structurally, psychologically, systemically. I wanted to work on big problems. Societal problems. I wanted to become a professional problem solver. 

But somewhere along the way, something unexpected happened.

I started applying everything I was learning to myself.

While studying business psychology, consulting models, systems thinking, and behavioral science, I realized something confronting:

We are systems.

And if organizations can be audited, redesigned, and optimized, so can individuals.

So I did what I had never done before. I stopped viewing myself as broken. And started viewing myself as a system with an operating model that needed redesign. Because if you want to build anything substantial - a family, a career, a company, a movement - your internal operating system has to be strong enough to hold it. 

Building my model

During my Master’s, I worked as a teaching assistant in Positive Psychology and as a research assistant in psychophysiology labs.

I was immersed in cognitive science, metacognition, neuroplasticity, identity theory, trauma integration, and behavioral development.

And I kept testing it. On myself.

Then motherhood came, just as I graduated, and I took this work even deeper. I became a cycle breaker and the CEO of myself and my life.

What emerged became the framework I now use with clients.

A structured approach to self-change grounded in behavioral science, influenced by consulting methodology, and built through lived application.

Today I can say that:

my PTSD is in remission.
my BPD is in remission.
I am Sober.
I am Stable.
I am happy and healthy and fulfilling my potential.

I have been med-free and symptom-free for nearly a decade.

Not because I processed endlessly. But because I redesigned my operating system.

The new me

Today, I’m a behavioral scientist, change consultant, and PhD researcher continuing to deepen my work in self-change and identity development.

Simultaneously I use my work, studies, model and lived expereince to help women do the same work for themselves.

I view you and your life as a business. and you are the owner, you are the CEO.

I consult for, coach and mentor the woman running that enterprise.

I work with intelligent, self-aware, mission-driven women who understand that sustainable impact requires psychological strength.

Women who are building businesses, raising families, leading communities and who are no longer willing to let unresolved patterns dictate their pace.

We don’t endlessly process.
We redesign.

We upgrade the operating system so the ambition can finally match the capacity.

That’s the work.